Something Funny, Something Nostalgic

I was waiting in line to check out at some supermarket. Accidentally, I saw this particular thing that caught my attention. It was a condom. Durex. Strawberry flavor. Well, I know condom is a common thing. Even the strawberry flavor can’t be count as uncommon as well. It’s just suddenly my locked-deep-down memory came into the light. The lock just came undone and let the box opened.

It was memory from 2 years ago. One day, I told him that I wanted to see funny and unusual condoms. Not the ordinary one. And I don’t wanna buy it myself, bcos it will be too embarrassing for me. He just laugh and say nothing else.

Few days later, he brought home something in a plastic bag and handed it over to me.

“Here you go.” Throwing the plastic bag to me.

I caught it and ask him, “What is this?”

He grab the towel and went to the bathroom without answering my question first.

I decided to open the plastic bag and I found 2 box of condom inside. I can’t seem to recall the brand but one box contains 8 condoms with 4 different type. 2 hot, 2 cold, 2 flavored, and 2 textured. Even more, he also got me the glow in the dark type!!! I’ve been super curious about that one!

I feel like a kid that just got new toys! I know how silly this sounds to get so excited over condoms. But for me it really was exciting! I’ve been wanting to see and touch that kind of condoms for a long time (mainly because I was curious as in how those condoms feels and look like), but never had the courage to buy it myself. And telling him that I wanted it also something that I never asked anyone else before as well. He was the first and I thought he won’t get it. Unexpectedly, he did get some for me.

I was so engrossed checking those condoms one by one and didn’t realize that he already finished his shower and looking at me from the door. He was smiling, laughing a bit, “Are you really that happy just because I got you those condom?”.

I was looking at him, smiling broadly, and nod, “Very! Thanks!”. 

After that, well, I think you guys could guess the rest of the story already… 😉

After remembering that bittersweet memory, I can’t help but smile.. Close the box again and put it back to where it belong. The deepest part of my heart..

Are You With The Right Partner?

During a seminar, a woman asked,

“How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, 

“It depends. Is that your partner?” 

In all seriousness, she answered 

“How do you know?” 

“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

“Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it!

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!”